Has the weight of just a thought ever taken your breath away?
Happened to me just this morning.
Maybe it’s the fact that my daughter’s wedding is now less than two months away, and she was in town this past weekend for her first bridal shower. Maybe it’s this fact that this afternoon, my wife and I are attending a funeral for a long-time family friend who lost her battle with cancer. Her two kids are the same age as my middle two kids.
No matter the reason, here’s the thought that left me struggling to breathe:
A husband and wife, in their 80s, dancing cheek-to-cheek in their kitchen.
It’s so easy to say, “Aren’t they cute? They still love each other, after all these years.” But have you thought about what that dance really represents?
- Millions of miles together in the same car.
- Tens of thousands of nights together in the same bed.
- Depending on how many kids they had, thousands, or tens of thousands, of diaper changes.
- Countless ER visits, late nights with sick kids, and broken hearts.
- Graduations, weddings, births, and then round two of graduations, weddings, and births.
- Deaths of their grandparents, their parents, their siblings, and occasionally, their children and even grandchildren.
- Several major health scares, surgeries, and treatments.
Those of you who have lived it know that this list isn’t even close to exhaustive. And to top it all off, society has changed so extensively, and so rapidly, that the elderly couple can be left wondering if they’re even still relevant.
As my thoughts sunk in, a physical weight rested on my chest. The sheer magnitude of two lifetimes, lived together and for each other, was more than I could bear.
Anyone looking for miracles in the modern age need look no farther than the couple celebrating an anniversary of 50 years or more. God’s design for marriage, and God himself, for those who choose Him, make it possible to complete the journey.
Even to your old age and gray hairs I am he, I am he who will sustain you. I have made you and I will carry you; I will sustain you and I will rescue you. – Isaiah 46.4
And for another post: What the elderly still have to give to their families and communities. Here’s a hint: They’re not only still relevant, they’re the missing link to sustaining our society.
I’ll never look at an elderly couple dancing the same way again.
3 thoughts on “May I Have This Dance”
I don’t think I will ever look at an elderly couple the same either after reading your post! Can’t imagine going through anything in life without Christ and His wisdom to guide us through.
Thank you for all you share. And being the son, Dad, husband, and brother in Christ you are. His spirit shines through you and your entire family. The legacy you’ve passed on to your children is the ultimate gift.
Prayers dear bother.
Cathy: Thanks for the thoughtful comment, and for your kind words. That’s exactly why I write: to help others to not miss God’s infinite wisdom through his Word and through his Son! So thankful to have you and Steven in our family’s lives!
Couples who endure that long are not only committed, but also extremely lucky. What a gift!